Building on Strengths
A teen who describes himself as being “someone with autism” commented on the expectations of others. He said it seems like everyone is trying to fix him, and that he doesn’t like to try anything new because he “knows people will be critical.” He said, “I wish people could notice some of the things I’m good at and not always be talking about the things I can’t do.”
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SOME THOUGHTS. This young man’s comments really address two different issues: (1) communication breakdowns between teens with autism and the adults around them, and (2) the wisdom of building on strengths. This podcast will address the issue of building on strengths.
The focus of parents, therapists, teachers, and other professionals on deficit areas is probably not intentional, but the comments of this young man help us understand that we can easily get pulled into the trap of “fixing” rather than “building.” So, it might be a good idea for us to purposefully spend at least as much time recognizing and building on the interests and talents of individuals with autism as we spend developing IEP or ITP goals and strategies to address deficit areas.
In the case of this young man, he is an excellent sketching artist, and he is usually calm and content. He avoids social contact and active participation in group activities, but he enjoys sitting on the sidelines and watching other people at athletic events, concerts, shopping malls, community events, and other group gatherings. In fact, he enjoys observing live group activities much more than watching television or movies. He struggles in the areas of academics, communication, and social interaction, but he thrives on structure, order, and predictable schedules.
Considering these interests and talents, this young man might enjoy participating in the following activities: (1) Provide sketches to illustrate the school newspaper and yearbook. (2) Attend school sporting events and music concerts throughout the year. (3) Assist with putting items in order e.g. returning books to shelves in school library, loading and unloading the dishwasher at home, putting away the groceries, and being responsible for regularly scheduled home tasks such as feeding the cat or watering the plants. There are, of course, many more options for building on the strengths of this young man. We just need to systematically and purposefully take time to help him maximize his potential and enjoy life.
NOTE TO LISTENERS AND READERS: I am Cathy Knoll, a board certified music therapist and long-time friend of many folks with autism. At FAQautism.com we are committed to providing free, practical, everyday tips for making life better for people with autism. You can click on a button to send me an email with your thoughts or challenging situations or innovative solutions. Check out our website for a wealth of ideas and a glimpse into the world of autism. www.FAQautism.com
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